 Sweet Word
GH056,
I hope I meet a man someday who thinks like you do. What a blessing your dw has in her life, a man who validates her instead of ripping her down.
Yes, her dh is not acting...um...correctly, but we got to think of things to say to Shena that will uplift her and help her out in her situation (situation being unsupported husband living in dreay life of denial).
Denial is a powerful thing...it is how some people cope. Shena...your dh will not come out of denial until he is good and ready. Praying for him is more helpful than ragging on him (which mind you I have a piece of my mind I would like to give him...but not helpful to you if I did).
Understand we VALIDATE you in here. WE KNOW you are taking good care of your body. WE KNOW that he is acting immature. Try though to think of times in your life when you were in denial and even arguing about things when facts were presented to show the contrary.
Usually behind that is a lot of fear. He has got some fear about you maybe leaving him? Maybe NEVER having kids? I dunno...maybe even about your health? Who knows.
Remember to walk in the truth...call a spade a spae...but try a little gentleness with your words. Remember the old adgage..."You can catch more flies with honey than vinegar".
You married your dh for a reason. Try to remember why.
And pray for him and yourself. Only God changes hearts and gives wisdom to INFLUENCE change in heart.
A sweet word too can soften wrath, as it says in Proverbs, in the Good Book.
Blessings.
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