Catherine -
Hi, Just a thought, Some times it doesn't really matter if the people in your life get it or not. Some times it is just a matter of moving on without them. NO! - I'm not saying to leave him, Lord knows I WOULD NEVER SUGGEST THAT! I'm saying other than the SA he really is sort of out of it when it comes to infertility testing and all of the blood test that you need.Now if you need to take the step to AI, then that would be an entirely different matter. If you are only doing clomid or something similar - go it alone. I'm sure you can talk DH into baby dancing when the time is right.
I understand your husband having the attitude he has though. My dad is the exact same way. Lord knows that if my mom had infertility problems neither me or my brothers would be here now!
Some people have different degrees of comfort with the infertility business and you have to respect that. No matter what, the quest for a biological child can only go as far as BOTH partners are willing to go. I hope that you and your DH can come to a mutual agreement about treatment for PCOS and infertility.
Julia