 Wow, you're harsh Sgt. Gary!
Sgt. Gary,
I agree with the other posters in here, LuckyHubby said it really well especially. You have some very VALID concerns and you're having the 411 on PCOS is a great asset to your relationship with your GF. She is lucky to have someone so loving, involved and wanting what's best for her.
Unfortunately, the way you come across leaves a bit to be improved/desired. You come across like "my way or the highway" and like you think she is an unkept mess of a woman.
I had a good friend (female) who came across like you...she was on my case to lose weight, improve my manners etc. She had a lot of good advice for me. I did lose weight with treatment (I am up to 2000 mgs of met) and working out...plus low-carbing however this friend thinks I lose weight too slow (only 42 lbs. since 09/11, look in my sig line). The last straw though was when she started barking orders to me and lying. I told her I felt disrespected and gave her specific examples...then broke off my friendship with her. I have to though keep in contact for business. Ugh.
I told her
It is not what you say it is how you say it
I sense the same for you. You have a lot of very VALID things to say but the message ain't getting through since you seem to carry a lot of blantant DISRESPECT for your gf, whom you claim to love (and I believe you but I wonder).
To control my PCOS, I have once a week hair plucking (electroy.) on my face...have since 1999 and hair is less but still growing. I take 2000 mgs of met, I low carb most of the time...I take a lot of vitamins, I also take 50 mgs of spiro (spose to help hair but I am still waiting). I hate to break it to you but there ain't NO MAGIC CURE.
Maybe your GF is a slothful, unkept mess of a woman. She also might be sensing your disrespect and has given up on getting any romantic and respectful treatment.
BTW, "sloth" is a word my EX-friend often used on me. When I confronted her, she told me the classic line "you are maybe too sensitive".
Hope this helps. If I am too hard on you, it is because I want to say something helpful and molly coddling you ain't going to help you sir. I truly want things to work out for you and your cyster...and my instincts are usually right, and my gut says to say this.
Blessings to you both.
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