What to do about insensitive sister? I suffered a m/c a week ago and was devastated. After my loss, I found out that my sister had a m/c in March. At first it was comforting to be able to talk with her, but she has turned way insensitive and has stopped thinking about my feelings.
I got pg after a year of trying and 5 months on Met. The Met made me horribly sick every day, but I took it b/c I wanted a baby. When I got a BFP, 3 different drs. told me to go off Met (I wish I didn't listen) and I lost my baby at 11 weeks.
My sister has a beautiful 3yo daughter and 2 yo son. All three times she got pregnant (including the one loss) she did so on the first month trying. She has now had 2 cycles with no success after getting the go ahead from her dr. She tells me about this and says how hard it is to wait for AF and have it show and she now wants to go see a dr. (after only 2 months of trying w/o success!)
I have explained my situation to her, and she just doesn't seem to understand, or care. 2 months w/o successs is not a big deal. Now I am here, struggling with the decision of whether or not to ttc again. I have no desire to go back on the Met, and living in Italy I don't have access to good specialists (that speak English). I have begun looking into adoption, and feel that it is the right way to go for me, but I still have to constantly listen to my sister complain about not getting pregnant.
I have tried talking to her, but know if I come right out and say "I can't hear this right now" she'll get mad and I'll start a big fuss which I don't have the energy to deal with right now.
Thanks for listening.
Jessica |