I agree with everyone's posts above and that you and your DH come first.
When we lost Kenny and Katie - my Dad never really talked with me about it at all and my Mom has and continues to talk with me about it some. Both my parents were at the hospital right after they were born and held them both before they passed away.
In the weeks and months following their deaths, if I would start crying, my Dad just didn't know what to do with himself. So he kind of ignored the issue (usually he was just kind of a bystander in the room). But since his passing last year, my Mom told me that it just hurt him so much to see me grieving and suffering so much and there wasn't anything that he could do to "fix" my pain. I believe that we suffer the worst pain losing our babies, no question, but our parents have lost their grandchildren and are watching their kids go through the worst pain anyone can experience.
Since losing our precious babies, we have had a successful pregnancy and I can now begin to understand more of what my father and mother were going through. I simply cannot imagine watching my daughter go through this kind of pain...it would kill me to not be able to make her pain go away.
That is my experience with this and I hope that it makes sense.
I am so sorry for your loss of your precious son! Hugs!!!!
P.S. By the way, it has been nearly 3 years since we lost Kenny and Katie and I am still angry sometimes. I am at peace with it for the most part, as much as one can be, but I will always miss them until the day that I die!!
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ds-Kaden & ds-Kory born at 25 weeks 3 days, 2 lbs 3 oz & 2 lbs, respectively
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