As I said in my previous post, I finally have my miscarriage, and we have the baby's body. We are no trying to decide what to do with it. I don't think we want to take it to the doctor, because we can just imagine hold they will rip open the sack, poke the baby with needles and throw it away without a second thought. We really can't live with that. So, we figured we have 2 options...burying him somewhere or cremation.
We are moving soon, so our in-laws said we are welcome to bury the baby in their backyard, but we hate to do that in case they move one day. Just doesn't feel right.
We thought about going to a state park or something and putting the baby in a lake or burying him somewhere, but figured some wild animal would dig him up and eat him or something. (sorry..tmi)
So, we're considering cremation. Is that strange? I know it's such a small baby that no one probably does this, but it seems like the best choice to me right now. I couldn't sleep last night, because I kept thinking someone had come in the house and stolen the baby or an animal had gotten in and eaten it. I even wanted the baby to stay beside the bed or in the bed with us, but my husband said that was morbid. I'm just afraid that, if I bury him, I will regret it and worry for the rest of my life. For an older child or baby, I would choose burial, but he is so tiny and I never got to know him...it just seems right to me that I keep him with me. Am I crazy? Has anyone else done this???
Also, does anyone know who to call or what the price of cremation is? If it's too much, we may need to wait a week or 2 to get the money. If so, should we refrigerate or freeze the baby (sorry...tmi!)? I hate to even think of doing this, but if it will preserve him long enought o get him cremated, I will.
I'm not sure if anyone even does cremation for a tiny fetus, but I'd love any info you guys have on the subject. I'm so sorry if I offended or upset anyone. I just know you guys are the only ones who might have an answer to my question. Thanks soooooooooooooo much!!!
