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waiting.for.baby · 03-23-2006, 07:18 PM

Wow, I applaud you for your support! Us cysters need more men like you! Anyway, I would suggest to continue being there for her, and to please please please be patient with things such as mood swings. These are things I continuisly tell my husband, but he never "gets it" all the time. The mood swings are really uncontrollable and it's important for you to understand this and be patient with her when these occur. It causes a lot of tension when our loved and close ones don't understand. Also, has her doctor prescribed anything to help her? If she battles with weight, like so many of us here, she is most likely Insulin Resistant (IR). There are medications that help for this, such as a drug called Metformin. I take this and it helps, it really does. I am losing weight more easily with a low carb, high protein diet that people with IR should follow.

The fear of intimacy is a whole other battle, though. I know how this feels first hand. As if being overweight isn't enough, there are other symptoms (that she may or may not have) such as hirtuism, or male-patterned hair growth (face, breasts/chests, belly, arms, etc.). Intimacy can be difficult to face with this symptom, but I promise if you continue to show her that you love her regardless, she will eventually overcome this. When I was first diagnosed, I used to cry all the time. I hated it, and I hated myself more. Eventually, I learned to live with it, deal with it, treat it, and move on with my life, hoping for the best. I'm sure she will too. It gets better everyday.

I wish you all the luck!

Oh, and by the way, refer her to this website! She will love it here. We are very supportive and there's SOOOO much info here about PCOS, as you probably already know. She will feel comforted here, knowing that there are options and others just like her. There are thousands here : )