ttc (religious question)
On Page 3 post#36 are my thoughts. I am sure there are others, so take your time and read through the thread. HTH!
Here, I went ahead and just copied my response here for everyone to see:
The Catholic belief or "rule" is that any way a baby is made outside of the marriage bed (meaning the actual marriage act, it doesnt mean your re can come give you AI as long as its in your bed, ha) is NOT allowed. Fertility drugs are exceptable because the physical act of concieving is not compromised. Children are viewed as a blessing, and not something that is deserved.
So, those are the rules, but that doesnt mean that I didnt struggle with them when ttc dd. Even before I was Catholic (dh is a craddle Catholic, but didnt think to look into this) I did di IUI once, it didnt work, but if it did I would have a hard time with the accusation that the baby was not a blessing. I ended up concieving with clomid and ovidrel alone.
I have nothing to back my next thoughts up, they really are just my thoughts. To me everything is a test. We are tempted and faced with challenges that give us a chance to prove our character. Just because a Catholic has a baby as a result of IVF doesnt mean that the child is not accepted, only that the parent has to answer for their actions. And for me, if I didnt believe this, and live by it, then I wouldnt be a true practicing Catholic.
I knoe the desperation of wanting to concieve and there are so many temptations out there for a Catholic to step out of bounds. And I as a regular person here on earth completely sympathise. I couldnt promise that if I wasnt lucky enough to concieve the way I did that I would not be questioning if these rules are really neccessary. Infertility is a wicked thing. THat said, many good things can come from it.