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Originally Posted by glen t  im new also i see how much support my wife gets and would like to see i could get some men that have gone through this longer could give me some pointers because it is hard for me because i cant fix the problem and dont fully understand it i hate that i cant do anything to help she is the love of my life and i wish i could make it possible for her never to feel pain but i know thats not gonna happen and it seems like the harder i try to help her the more she gets mad at me i dont understand it im sorry for the pitty party but i just needed to get this off my chest |
Understandable. PCOS can be frustrating for those who have it because of so much that isn't clear about it. Many PCOS suffers have been feeling the effects for years and gone through a lot of different approaches towards their symptoms and failing because they didn't know what they had. It can also be frustrating because even though you finally have a diagnosis, there is no set-in-stone approach for fighting the symptoms. Medication that works for some people might not work for others, or maybe it takes care of some symptoms but not others.
The best thing I can suggest is to just be supportive. It may mean just being in the background and offering a ride to the doctor or to give her some alone time if she needs it. Some people have no problem letting the world know their condition, but some people are very private and don't necessarily want to talk about it. If she's that private about it, then that's how she feels comfortable and while your intentions might be great, it might not be the way to approach it.
Above all, just be there when she needs you. That's pretty much all most people can ask for.