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Chas1975 · 11-14-2006, 08:29 PM

I am one of the wives with low sex drive. I am on Paxil and in pain from the PCOS most of the time. So, the paxil has killed my drive and the pain from PCOS makes it difficult to enjoy it. My husband knows that when he sees the pad wrappers in the trash to not even approach me about the subject of sex. He checks with me often to see if I've stopped bleeding. Waiting for the thumbs up.

I must admit that alot of the time I give in to him just to make him happy. I'm just not interested but then after we get going I enjoy it. I've never gotten to the end and been pissed that I just had sex and honestly didn't want to. I often wonder what is wrong with him that he's attracted to me, the overweight bearded lady. But, he says he loves me no matter what and this isn't my fault so I shouldn't punish myself for it. I've often thought of telling him to get sex somewhere else. I don't think I've ever voiced this to him because when I think about it. I would be sooo incredibly pissed if he cheated on me and we'd have to get a divorce.

We were lucky in the aspect that we were able to have a child together. I had one before we met and was on the pill up until we got married. My theory is that the pill helped keep my ovaries in good shape (free of cysts and functioning) so that we didn't have to live through the disappointment of infertility. We made the choice for him to have a vas before we knew about my PCOS. So, I'm sorry that you and your wife have to live the infertility nightmare.

I've actually had the condition since I was a teen, long before I met Joe. The symptoms have always been there but I wasn't diagnosed until recently. I haven't even started drug therapy yet. I'm hoping to get some sensuality back, and I know that would make my husband a very happy man.

You could try asking your wife if she has lost sensation. That is a big problem for me. It's happened gradually and my husband doesn't mind the use for marital aids to get me off. He also figured out where the Gspot is and let me tell you, I look forward to that one. He feels bad that he can't get me off by penetration but it happens to alot of us. We also use the KY warming gel. That helps get me going. I've lost lubrication so it helps to keep things from getting too rough and painful and causes a very nice heat.

My husband constantly tells me he loves me. I believe that he does but I still don't understand how he could want to have sex with me. Maybe your wife needs some reassurance also. She's probably going to think you are as off as I think mine is but it does help me to know that he loves me and is willing to do anything he can to make me happy.

Another thing that has helped me is that my husband asks almost daily if I'm still bleeding. I have to understand that he's not asking because he is nagging me for sex, he's just concerned that it's been going for 7 weeks and he'd like to know when it finally ends. Supportive hubby's are great. A wife that understands that her husband has a porn collection and looks at porn on the net is even better. I know that he needs it more than me so I don't mind if he has to take care of business himself.

HTH