Three weeks is not that long. I recently bled for 7 weeks. We didn't have sex during that time. I am affectionate with my husband. Kissing, snuggling, holding hands and spooning in bed. But we didn't have sex during those 7 weeks.
Your wife probably doesn't feel attractive and leaving her is not going to help that. If you love her you need to open up the lines of communication and work on repairing your marriage. If she is unwilling to get help or be part of the repair then you will have to do what you think is necessary for yourself. I know for a fact that I don't respond well to ultimatums and I doubt your wife will either. If you tell her to have sex with you or you are going to leave then I'm guessing she will tell you to not let the door hit you in the a$$ on your way out.
If you've opened the lines of communication in the past and weren't successful, you will have to try again. You need to be patient. This isn't going to resolve overnight. Marriage is work, hard grueling work. If it were easy then the divorce rate would be lower. You both took vows to stand by each other in sickness and health. Right now she's sick and you need to stand by her, let her know you are there and willing to be patient.
Since seeing this new doc and being told that I will feel better soon I've felt much better about myself, which in turn has made me even more affectionate with my husband. I'm not saying that we are at it like rabbits but the thoughts are there and I definately enjoyed myself more when we made love. If I enjoy myself more then he's happy and it's even better for him.
See if she's willing to have treatment or see a marriage counselor. Tell her that you are worried about your future together but don't give her an ultimatum. When pushed, we push back. It sounds like your wife is a strong and independant woman. Love that and embrace it. She needs to know that you want her to feel better.
Good luck. |