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Originally Posted by Neechogan  Where are the men by the way. Why aren't they coming out? I notice that the men who have posted here have partners who post here as well and I'm starting to think that they aren't comfortable with really sharing because of the backlash they think they might get if they talked about the relationship issues PCOS has created.
I also suspect that a lot of men don't really care and aren't willing to post or talk about how they are feeling. After all - do you see any other guys posting here regularly. I care more than you may think. NO BODY HAS RESPONDED TO THE FACT THAT THE ASHLEY MADISON AGENCY (an online dating service that facilitates adultery) HAS A BANNER ON THIS THREAD. I think most of the men who have visited this site have given up and decided to cheat on their partners. |
I have been reading this thread for about an hour now trying to figure out how to respond.
I will tell you that my wife has PCOS and yes has a diminished sex drive, and has posted how I still love her very much. You need to stop torturing your self with this “I don’t get any sex anymore!” I understand that people deal with things in different ways but you need to show your wife that you are supportive and her “curse.” Having sex is not the end of the world. When we first got married it was anytime, anywhere, anyplace, but as time went on after the birth of our daughter it seem to go down hill. Yes there were many times I thought to my self if she still loved and made me second guessing my decision to relocate, get married and have a child with her, but I realize no matter what I was in this for life and I was going to make the best of it.
I cannot express how much I love my wife and how we now know how to approach her “curse.” Sex is infrequent but when it does occur she enjoys it and I rather see her face gleaming for the sensation she just had than me just getting off.
As for dealing with it, I tend to play video games; I work 2 jobs, volunteer at my local fire department and having a healthy porn collection works well too. (Sorry Hunny
Sometime you just need to give her a break and take the bull by the horns per say.
You keep mentioning about cheating and it sound like you have made up your mind about it and are planning to go through with it and in that case, I cannot help you. I understand you frustration and believe me I feel your pain. Everyone is telling you to hang in there and I will tell you the same thing but you need to approach this as a team. Speak to her let her know that you care about her and be a bit more understanding.