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CaraMia886 · 11-28-2006, 11:56 PM

Hey-

I haven't been on this in a while. I'm just going to give you my end of the story. Personally I was diagnosed with PCOS with Insulin Resistence, two separate diseases which affected me in many different ways. Please tell her to stick with the metformin. I did not keep food down for about eight weeks on that. I was sluggish. I joined weight watchers. I had no self-esteem. At 19 years old, I had gained about 35 pounds in 6 months that I had to take off.

However, my boyfriend stuck by my side. Through the months of my being extremely irritable, through my physical torment, through being over-medicated on the met and going to the hospital a few times. He was there. Not always standing right next to me, but he saw what I was going through.

I commend you for being so present for your wife in this trying time. The fact that you have chosen to seek a board out instead of cheating and creating a self-fulfilling prophecy, I applaud you. You sound like you love her very much. Please, tell her to stick with it. It's been a little over 1 year since I was diagnosed, and the transmation has been remarkable and life-affirming. I thank God every day that I'm here and I'm ok. If she has symptoms anything like mine, she feels completely unattractive and life you don't want her. It took me a long time to realize how wrong I truly was. Try wooing her all over again.

Leave her cute notes, buy her flowers. Tell her she looks beautiful. I'm sure you've tried some of these things, but schedule a babysitter and take her out to dinner. Make her feel like she is truly the only woman in the room.

As for sounding like you're crying-- you don't. You are expressing concerns. And the fact that after all the emotional turmoil you've been through as a couple-- you still want to be with her and not just run and hide-- that's inspiring.

Also, try counseling. I went through a lot of counseling by myself. It might be beneficial to you, too. It sounds like you've been through an incredible range of emotions. I realize I'm not a guy-- which you seem to be looking for, but I'm telling you-- you're doing great. She will come around. This too will pass.

Carrie