 What should I do now?
Hi,
Soulcysters has become a lifeline for me in many ways. This issue doesn't apply to pcos, it has to do with my son. I found out he was gay when I was snooping around his myspace account. A few years ago, his sister told me that he was talking and hanging out with a gay boy who was known for trying to turn straight boys gay. I freaked out and isolated him, made him go to counseling, etc. because I thought he was being brainwashed. I told him if he was really gay, I would accept it but I wanted him to make the decision himself, not do it because it's popular at his school (there are lots of gay kids at his school and they have a club). He eventually told me that he stopped talking to the boy and he wasn't gay after all, he was just going through a "phase" where he was questioning his sexuality. I chose to believe him but I was uncomfortable that he might be lying to me. Then I let it go. I asked him periodically if he was still sure he wasn't gay and he always reassured me he wasn't. I did not expect to find stuff about being gay on his website. I guess I am naive. I've been looking at information on this today and I realize how ignorant some of this sounds.
Anyway, what I did was I sat him down and I asked him how he was feeling about trying to live a lie for the last couple years. He looked very uncomfortable so I told him that I found out he was still thinking about being gay. He let out a deep sigh and said yes. I asked him if it was still "questioning" or if it was for sure. He said it was for sure. I told him that he was a wonderful person and that I was extremely proud of him for various reasons and that nothing would change that even though this lifestyle is not what I would choose for him. He seemed very relieved and he seems more comfortable around me now. This was a couple months ago. He hasn't spoken to me about it since though and I'm itching to ask him questions and talk more, but I don't want him to think I'm trying to change him. I'm somewhat ashamed of myself for the way I acted a few years ago. Any advice?
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Dx: PCOS, Estrogen Dominance, Migraine, Hypothyroid (caused by high levels of reverse T3), Candida Yeast, Vitamin D deficiency, Adrenal Fatigue, Insulin Resistance
Meds: Armour Thyroid, Bio-identical Progesterone cream, Nystatin
Supplements: EPA/DHA, Chromium Picolonate, Multivitamin, CLA, Vitamin D, Ortho-Biotic, L-Carnitine |