First of all, know that no one can "turn" someone gay. It's something that you either are, or aren't. Going to a school with a bunch of gay people and a club won't make someone gay. I think perhaps he hung out with other gay kids because he identified with them.
But, I am happy that you love and accept him. It was good that you approached him about it and let him know that you still love him. My mom never talks to me about me being gay, and it is very very uncomfortable in my house. I think if you have questions, you should just talk to him. I wish my mother would sit me down and talk to me or ask me questions. If you don't want him to think you are trying to change him, tell him that. Tell him "I love you and I am curious about your life. I'm not questioning you or trying to change you, I just want to know you better."
Remember, he wouldn't choose this lifestyle for himself either...it's just who he is.
Thanks for being a loving, interested, concerned mother.
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