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Fuzzzzybum · 01-16-2007, 12:44 AM

Hello, first i must say your not being over sensitive, even if you think are, who cares your a woman, that's just how we are! second BUY men are from mars woman are from venus by john Gray.

It saved our relationship, my friends and my brothers. we read this book after we had been together for about a year, we where arguing all the time and i was 1 insult away from leaving him. After i had read the book i understood why he was being such a ********. i asked him to read it and about 2 weeks later he finished the book, he came home from work with a huge bunch of flowers, my favourite chocolates and spent 3 hours telling me how sorry he was for being so horrible. We have never been so happy. People still say to us, Oh young love, you wait a few years lol.

We understand each other, martin is very supportive of me and finds me VERY attractive. im 5'5" 197 pounds and a typical PCOS woman.

Martin stairs at my face, he does not see my pimples and hair, he is not staring at my faults, he is staring at me, just me. The staring is making you self conscious but he is doing because he loves me. Have you ever woken up early and watched your husband sleeping?? just laid there admiring his lips, his cheeks, his eyes?? He is not even seeing the pimples and hair, he is seeing your warm soft beautiful skin and all the love he feels for you....till you shout STOP LOOKING AT ME!!!

Ask your husband to read it after you have, i know if your like me your probably thinking he will never read it, after you have read the book you will know how to ask him correctly and he will read it for you. I know that sounds bad, but its as simple as, instead of saying can you read this book please. Say it would make me happy if you read this book.

Once you have read the book yourself, you will understand how a little change in wording can make a huge difference you will learn allot about your self as well. also you mite want to read mars and venus in the bedroom, its not a sex book, more of an emotional guide. Heres a little bit about the men: A man needs to repeatedly experience that he can make a woman happy in and outside of the bedroom if he is to stay attracted and turned on by her.

The basic gist of it is, he may rock your world in the bedroom but if he feels like he is failing you outside the bedroom he is going to find it hard to be attracted to you. It may have nothing to do with your physical body not being attractive but his emotional needs as a man not being met.

Another thing is, he may look at other woman in tiny outfits and find them attractive purely because they are confidant, he may feel that if you where 10 pounds lighter you would be more confidant but he does not know how to express that feeling correctly. If you tell him, im to hot for you, in his mind you are saying, he is not good enough for you, he is a failure as a husband and a man. As you can imagine that's very hurtful.

Im not saying that you are wrong or he is right but i think most woman forget that men are just as emotional as woman, sometimes more emotional but they have been programed over thousands of years not to show it, but they still feel it, there way of expressing that pain and hurt is often miss understood by woman.

I may be wrong but im sure he loves you very much and you are very attractive to him. Sex for a man in love is sometimes the only time they feel the full force of there emotions, if most of them are negative, its not very pleasurable and he probably does not know why. As for you he will be able to support you once he is not feeling like a failure and knows how!!

I am 99% sure over the years he has tried with all his heart and soul to support you the only way he knows how! if he has been burned he will be more and more reluctant to even attempt to support you. A mans way of supporting a woman is often unhelpful to us, its not there fault, if you did it to them they would feel supported and they simply don't understands why your in more pain... he feels like a failure and deeply hurt, he becomes more distant.