First of all, coming to this site shows that you love her and trying to find ways to support her. Hats off to you. Most DH's won't do that. That is a great step. Educate yourself about what she is going through so you will understand. That is a great thing. I understand that you are away for months at a time and are use to being with the crew on the ship, but when you return, you need to learn to get right back into the mode of being home. My husband use to be gone a lot when we were first married, but he learned to get right back into the swing of things right away. Just because he was with "the guys" most of the time didn't give him an excuse to treat me like one of the guys. Try to shorten the length of time it takes to get back into the homelife each time you leave and come back. Your wife needs your support all the time, not just after the first month you get back home. Second, do what you've been doing. Keep reminding her and showing her how beautiful and special she it to you. You are doing a great job. Third, just be there and listen. she needs you to listen to her and be there for her when she just wants a shoulder to cry on. Encourage her to keep seeking treatment and help. To me, knowing that my dh loves me and is there for me makes it a lot easier for me to deal with the things I face daily. It keeps me going. You are doing a great job!!!
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DX 1994-told to lose weight by GYN,Suffered 12 years before seeking treatments: REDX 2006 by a family doc sent to endo July 31, 2006 and glad I went; Byetta, 2000mg Metformin, 28 units of levemir, fish oil, 1000mg calcium. Type 2 diabetic and high cholesterol dx March 05, psoriasis dx 1992.
Married 20 yrs 2 kids: girl 19 yrs old and boy 17 yrs old.
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