 This Husban's Opinion
I'm the husban of a wonderful woman who has had PCOS for about 7 years but was diagnosed about 2 years ago. My wife is what you would describe as the typical PCOS sufferer. Excess weight and hair growth, mood swings, low to no sex drive.
I must admit that it has been a struggle for me. My wife has always been overweight and I think about the first time I met her, sitting there on that stool in the coffee shop. Her hair was long and wavey, she was wearing a sweater and stirrup pants. She was a knockout, I was instantly attracted to her. I'm still attracted to her as much as I was that first day.
I've been guilty of oogling from time to time when my wife's libido started taking a nose dive. While I still glance from time-to-time, I changed my behaviour when I realized how my wife was feeling. She came out and told me and only then did I realize that I was being a jerk.
Let your partner know how you feel and ask him what has changed to cause him to look at other women that way. Be tactful about it and sincere. If really loves you, he'll see how his behaviour makes you feel and he'll change. If its because there is an issue with intimacy, do your hardest to work on it. Listen to his concerns and compromise if necessary. Trust me, I know all too well about the pain associated with a marriage void of intimacy (however, my wife and I are working hard at rebuilding it).
Good luck and God bless. |