Hi Determination,
I'm new here as my fiancee just came across this board tonight and we both joined up.
I'm going to give you a few very blunt facts from a man's perspective about your husband, and understand I don't mean any disrespect by any of this.
First of all, if you have PCOS, are 5'5, and weigh 130 lbs, that is positively amazing and you should be unbelievably proud of yourself. That weight and build for someone without PCOS is hard to accomplish so if you feel you are too fat, it's time to get that silly thought out of your head.
And I'm sorry to say it this way because you didn't marry him for no reason, but your husband appears to be a bit of a jerk. His disinterest in you and his accusations of denial are unfortunately typical of a lot of males. Both the lady I'm with now and myself have been married before to people whom acted just the way your husband appears to be acting. I'm not sure how long you two have been married or how long you had courted prior to marriage, but your life isn't something worth spending with someone whom doesn't want to be with you for who you are, not for whom they want you ideally to be.
A ten pound difference, though it may be hard to lose, doesn't alter your physical appearance that much, and to me it seems as if he's using that excuse as a shield. Bottom line is, don't settle. As someone who's been through a divorce I heed you take my advice. Your mate should love you based on your mind and your soul, not your ability to lose ten pounds. Ask yourself this: If you suddenly weighed 230, would he still love you as much as he loved you the moment you exchanged rings? And if you have to consider that question for more than a second, then perhaps there are other things you should consider as well. It's your life. Be happy.
I truly wish you the best of luck. |