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Pandora1151 · 02-15-2007, 11:16 AM

Thank you for sharing your stories ladies. I too, was worried about not having grandchildren. I'm positive my daughter is not gay, but both of my kids tell me they don't want to have children, lol. I remember saying that when I was a teen too (til I actually got pregnant). I talked to my son about it and told him to keep an open mind because when he got older, there are other options available to him. I told him that someday when he is much older, I would like to be a grandma! He just laughed. I have always been very open about my experiences and mistakes with them. They know me very well as a person, not just their mother.

I am comfortable with him being gay now. He recently got sick and then got better really fast. He asked me if I thought it might be stress related and I asked him if he felt stressed out. He said he did before, but everything has worked itself out now so it's over and he's not stressed anymore. I asked if it had to do with me or school and he told me it was a situation he didn't want to talk about. I told him he could talk to me about it and I asked him questions like, does it have to do w/romance or sex? He said it sort of had to do with romance, but not exactly. I tried to press him for more details, but he wouldn't tell me. He said it's over now and he doesn't want to talk about it. So I didn't get offended, but the curiosity was killing me!!

Anyway, he is really transforming into a man during his senior year right before my eyes! It's so neat to watch. I worry about people being mean to him. I want to protect him, but lately when he has an issue he tells me to let him handle it and if he runs into a road block, he'll let me know so I can handle it. He reminded me that I've been teaching him to advocate for himself since middle school and just because I am feeling sad about him growing up doesn't mean I can start treating him like a child again. I agreed with him and I told him that sadness isn't the only feeling I have. I also feel extreme happiness and pride for the way he has turned out. Last night, I told him that he is turning into a man right before my eyes and it makes me so proud.

He is preparing for college and involved in many activities. We've been struggling w/his ADD this year due to all the activities he is constantly involved in and I told him a few months ago that he needs to either consider going back on meds for ADD or go back to the books and notes we took on the subject when he was in middle school and really start applying those techniques. So, he has been making lists of things that need to be accomplished to be ready for college, etc. and now he is right on track. He was telling me how full his life is now and I was like, "welcome to adulthood!" He said he wished he knew adulthood had this many responsibilities because he would have made sure to savor every moment of his childhood. We had a good laugh. He talks to me about a lot. I'm lucky in that regard so if he wants to keep some things to himself, I can deal with it. I just don't want him to feel like he CAN'T talk to me about them if he chooses to because I've always been available to talk to both of my kids their whole lives and I was just concerned that my initial reaction when he was 15 had caused a rift between us that I was unaware of until I found out he had lied to me about not being gay and covered it up for 2 years. But he told me that he knows I only acted that way because I was being protective of him and he forgives me. It just makes me feel horrible.