JesterArts

Hi, I'm an ignoramus.

Its one of the more difficult afflictions to live with, since the one afflicted is usually unaware they have it, though everyone in their circle can see it plainly.

It has a variety of symptoms, though, the most common being an overdeveloped sense of confidence resting on an underdeveloped base of knowledge.

Cures generally include, simply, widening the area of knowledge (thereby bringing the confidence level to a reasonable height), speaking less, a good old fashioned smack in the head, and in rare cases, a bullet.

My wife has been living with my affliction of ignoramism for quite some time, while I've been responding to the side-effects of my wife's PCOS in a way thats well...ignorant. So, I'm here to improve my ability to be a good husband on this special level.

Recently my doctor Diagnosed me with Bi-Polar Depression, then second guessed and Diagnosed me with a more common Stress Disorder, third guessed, and realized I was just an ignoramus. I didn't wait for the bullet. (last part a joke). But in all seriousness, my personality has become like a rollercoaster, flaring up at most of the household issues that arise. Now this is something I truly detest in myself.

Upon a little more reflection, we started to realize that our marriage relationship has been declining because of the moodswings that our marriage has always known. Most recently we've come to realize that my inability to deal with some of the more difficult parts of PCOS moodswings (the seemingly cold response I get when I try to help with good motive) have been among the things that have caused my own frustration to mature into all-out anger.

Of course, there are other contributing factors too, but the household relationships make or break the ability to deal with the outside world to a large degree. I can say honestly that we have come to our lowest point in almost every aspect of our lives, due to depression and burnout that is about six years in the making.

So I'm here to widen my base of knowledge, to understand some of the leading coping strategies that husbands can use to help their wives (and dare I say themselves?). I'm quite green in this area, knowing a few basics. But with your help I can undue the damage that my own affliction of ignoramism has caused with my wife, who more than anything, needs a husband who knows how to treat her in this area that requires special attention.

But I guess most of all I'd like to know what the experience of the people are around here, how other's have taken a marriage in decline and made it a success...and things of that nature.

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