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Originally Posted by JesterArts  I guess most of all I'd like to know what the experience of the people are around here, how other's have taken a marriage in decline and made it a success... |
You're already past the first hurdle -- recognizing that there's a problem without a simple solution. And you understand something about the reality of mood swings. And you know that it's tough for your wife as well as for you. She's a woman and your wife and I'm sure she wants to be a normal woman and a normal wife. But there are factors that militate against that. Most of us with PCOS have high testosterone levels, often as high as men. That affects our emotions and it also affects our bodies in a variety of ways, not least giving many of us growth of beard and body hair like men have. That's very destructive on us emotionally and it's easy to feel we can't be a "proper" wife as a result. The fact that you're here on this list should be a big encouragement for her. Accept her for who and what she is and make sure she knows that she's loved for who she is. Some women want privacy to remove at least some of the male-type hair; others love to have their husband help them -- go with what she prefers. If she wants privacy, keep out of her way at the times she prefers to do it. If she welcomes help it can be a great bonding exercise. I remove hair only from my face and let the other areas grow, but I love it when my husband offers to shave me.