momoftwins

It sounds like you at least have a understanding of what she is going thru. That is VERY important. I think that my advice to you would be to communicate with your wife. Let her know how you feel as far as being there for her. Make sure she knows that you are not ignoring her or mad at her, but you are always there if she needs you. One thing that I did and you may want to suggest it to her, if you think it would help, I wrote my DH a letter when I was first dx'ed. In the letter I told him how I felt about having PCOS. It may make her feel better to get it down on paper. It also sounds like she has been dealing with symptoms for awhile and that can be VERY frustrating. Escpecially if you are seeing doctors and no one is telling you what is wrong. Once the labs come back hopefully they can get her on meds and start helping her deal with this!

This is a new thing for both of you to being going thru and it is great that you are trying to help her thru it. If you are able, I would suggest you go with her to her doctors appointments. Be the person that takes notes on what the doctor says so that when she gets home and it completely overwhelmed she will have notes to remind her of what the doctor said.

I dont know how active your wife is, but maybe in the evening take a walk with her. The exercise will help with the PCOS and I would think that it would help with your temper.

I hope some of this helps you. We are always here to help you and know that you two are not going thru this alone!!!