biker_jt: It is very hard to realize there is something "wrong" with you as a woman....especially when it deals with your fertility. It is wonderful to hear that you try to be supportive to her! I would not even THINK of yelling at you! What it sounds like to me, is that you need to sit her down and have a talk with her. Tell her exactly what you said in your posts. Ask her if she wants you to comfort her. I love it if my hubby is open and asks questions.
Is she on any medications? I just had a baby, and have gone back on my Metformin, and I feel SO MUCH BETTER. It is insane the difference that stuff makes for some people. Hormones are a really terrible thing to have out of whack whether you are trying to conceive or not. I remember when I got diagnosed with PCOS I thought it was the most horrible thing ever. It is hard, both mentally and physically. (not only on the woman, but her loving husband too...ask my hubby...)
I hope my rambling post has helped in some way....I hope nobody yells at you...if they do...yell back!
Happy to have helped (if I did!)