I will try to offer the best advice I can here.
My DH and I have gone through hell, and somehow have climbed back out everytime. My greatest recomendation is to see a coucellor, even if only once. Dh and I went once, just once, and in that one hour we discovered so much about ourselves that we never knew, and were free to cuss eachother out in a safe environment, we both felt so much better afterwards. Something the councellor had said to us was that men and women are both logical, yet think in different logic (you will learn this if you read men are from mars, although i only found some things in that book helpful). Because of this men and women become frusterated. Try to think that she is really just looking for someone to vent to, and you happen to be the closest thing. That means that she trusts you enough to hurt you, yet know that everything will be ok afterwards because you love her. Of course I dont think that anyone should be hurt in the process, but DH has taken to selective listening. If i bark at him and tell him I am unhappy, or that I want a divorce, he just lets me *****, then gives me 10mins to cool down, where as I think about what I said and come out to appoligise. Sometimes you just need to find a happy medium between the two of you, to find some way to just kind of deal with crappy stuff, and remember that you are together for a reason.
Is your wife on Metformin? Metformin can really help with the mood swings and symptoms of PCOS. Before I was diagnosed with PCOS, I had been diagnosed with bi-polar disorder, and was not doing well on Anti-depressents. Within 3 month of metformin, my depression disapeared, and my anger that I had disapeared. I was later re-diagnosed with anxiety disorder, and no long bi-polar. For you, are you on medications to help deal with the stress??
Just remember you love eachother, and the reason that you hurt eachother is because of this. Again, try to find that happy medium, communication is the key.
I tried, Hope i helped at least a little.
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