ok, let me start by saying this is my personal thoughts on the subject and i am no expert, half the time i don't know what i'm doing but it just works out to be realy romantic. i have only been intimate w/ my wife so i am no expert there either but from over hearing her talk to her friends and talking to mine i have an idea that some of the stuff i try is unusal and effective. now that i have that out of the way i just wanted to put something i wrote almost 2 years ago as a reminder that us guys are not perfect.
"i think i know why i don't apeal to some women, i can come off as "prince charming" and the "knight in shining armor" but the problem is my armor has become battle scared and when i take of the helmet to show my "prince" side i am often soaked in sweat from the battle for the woman's affection, health, pride, or any of the other battles i let myself get roped into. what i need is a woman who knows what she wants and is going to stay with that decision, i have yet to meet one (well at least one who wasn't married) and ladies if you are reading this that does not mean to wimp out on me if we disagree, i enjoy the challenge and the fire a good natured fight or arguement brings out in a girl, most guys do. (and making up is always fun ;-P ) ...(editing out the personal stuff)...if any of you ladies out there have some advice for a guy who tries to treat you as LADIES, not toy or prizes or anything else the world says i should please tell me becouse i am closing my self off more and more and it is realy not a good thing." so ladies please rember we try to be the knight in shining armor and the prince charming, but we will have our rough edges and dents and chinks in our armor. it just means we're human and can be hurt. same as you.
i know i sound like i know what i'm doing or have a degree as one friend said, i don't. i just happen to think differently from most people and it can give me an advantage at times, kinda like the movie "what women want". ok i'm not that good but i try. now the promised advice for the guys. some of this will sound strange so just try what you are comfortable with.
1) this sounds obivous but we over look it often, suduce (spelling?) her, go overboard, candel lit dinner (cook if you can otherwise takeout, but put it on plates!) wine or her favorite drink, flowers, her favorite desert, romanic music, basicly date her! she's still your girlfriend, right?
2) suprise her, have flowers or candy sent to her work w/ a sappy card, make her co workers jelous, and do it for no reason other then to let her know she is special and you love her.
3) when in dout of something to do, weather your not creative or just stumped you can always try the web, no i'm not gonna make you search eveywhere, here are some examples;
http://www.lovepoemsandquotes.com/ http://www.free-e-cards-online.com/LoveCards.html (this is fun and free way to say i love you)
http://www.500lovemakingtips.com/ http://www.300creativedates.com/
and probly the best one,
http://theromantic.com/
4) and this one will sound odd if you are trying to get more intimacy, but make it all about her. and i don't mean just have some forplay or something as simple as that. i mean make her feel like the sexyest woman in the world
and that all you want to do is, and there is no way to put this but bluntly, give her as many orgasims as you can, don't make it about sex, if you need to you can "take matters into your own hands" but this has to be about her. trust me on this it can be far more enjoyable then you think and most times she will be to tired to do anything for you. this is ok, it means you did a good job. and this is something she will rember too.
i hope this helps and anyone who has ideas or if something realy works please share. it take a real man w/ some serious balls to seek advice, let alone from someone they don't know so any guys reading this are both honoring thier wives/girlfriends by admiting they can use some help sometimes and showing that they are man enough to go find it.