Kittie

Dear Aaron,
I know this forum is meant for Cysters DBF and DH's but your post broke my heart. I'm so sorry for the hardship you are going through! My advice, give her space, from what you say she is missing having her own time, let her have it and start to try and carve out your own social life, it's very important to have your own interests and let her have her own time too. That way you both feel healthy and secure within your relationship. That being said, it is important to have those intimate moments planned together, dates and spending time together each week as well. Although work and life can come in the way of such things, its important to try and make them happen. Sounds like you are really committed to making the relationship work, but besides what you've already suggested I'm at a loss as to what to tell you to do... Sometimes you have to let the ones you love go, if it was meant to be, she'll come back to you. The important thing is not to pressure her, something has triggered this withdrawal inside her, perhaps that week away made her feel the need for more in her life and to reconnect with an aspect of herself she feels she has lost, just give her the space she needs for now. Don't try and contact her so much, perhaps one last phone call to let her know that you are there if she needs you but you are going to let her have her space to sort it all out. Focus on helping you, make new friends, start to have a social life, cut back at work if you can and can afford it. If she isn't wanting to continue and wants a break up, let her go and focus on looking after you for a while and developing who you are. That is important, making sure you are happy, healthy and balanced. If it doesnt work out, there are plenty more fish in the sea and perhaps you will meet another girl who you care for again one day. I hope this helps some, I know its not much but it is something. Good luck!

__________________