Well, as hard as it has been I have definitely tried to giver her space. We do have financial obligations to deal with. She won't talk to me, return my phone calls, or emails. She has closed herself off from the world and won't let anyone in. Because of this, I started searching for answers. I am beginning to see a pattern with her behaviour. She was happily married before, had ovarian drilling, and then her husband at the time fessed up that he was no sure he was ready to have kids. The split up right after that. In posts I have found she has said that she is alone and lonely, she has made me out to be the bad guy because I have been frustrated and didn't understand what she was going through and because of this, I had "fits of rage". I admit I was frustrated and was very angry and I did do things I am not proud of that scared her. In the following sentence, paragraph or post she will bounce back and stated that I am a great guy, things are going well now and that I just don't understand. Now she has stated that things are over. I understand that, but I still want to stand by her and be there for her when she needs someone. All she is doing is pushing the people away that care. I have lost her and she is not coming back. I fear that she has lost herself as well and she needs help. Don't get me wrong, I am not implying that she is crazy in anywya. In my opinion, her hormones are playing nasty games with her body and she is just along for the ride unfortunately.
Thanks to all those who posted advice.
Aaron |