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~*Proud*Female*~ · 10-29-2007, 05:36 PM

AHoff01,

I know that you wanted a man's perspective but I just wanted to give you a perspective from a woman who has been married for 10+ years and give you a little more insight on men. Now, my DH and I never never had to TTC, it kind of just happened. We were never concerned about getting pg and the first time I got pg, I was on bcp and needed it to help establish regular AF's. Because of that, 9 months after being on the pill, I became pg with DD#1. DD's #2 & #3 soon followed with no medical intervention needed, no bcp nothing. I knew nothing at that time about TTC or PCOS. I was just diagnosed with PCOS this past February.

From what I have observed with women who are TTC is this, they freak out or get anxious if it doesn't happen right away. These things take time and if you let it consume you, it never will happen. I have a friend that was TTC for about 3 yrs and was totally consumed by it. Their sex life was suffering because it came down to only having sex when she was ovulating. It became work. She called me one night crying and I explained to her that it sounds as if she and her DH were losing their connection to one another. Also told her that she may have to stop only having sex for TTC, reminded her that sex is also fun and if you lose the fun in sex, what's the point for having it. To make a long story short, I got a call about 3 months later from her stating that she took my advice and that they finally got the BFP!! Now she has a beautiful baby boy!

Just remember that TTC may or may not work for you and to have fun. If your pour everything you have into TTC, you can lose sight of yourself and your DH. Take everything one day at a time and remember why you are with your DH. Good luck and enjoy life no matter what happens.