Stnredfox

Hi! Just signed up and not really sure, well about anything.
I am 26 just recently married to my wife, C and we have a 2yr old daughter.

I was diagnosed with PCOS when I was sixteen, My doc told me it was unlikely I would be able to naturally have a child then stuck me on the pill to regulate my cycle. And that was that. And even the pill didn't help my cycles were few and far between and i kept piling on weight, i have always been heavy but it got really bad on the pill, and it didn't help with the excess hair I have in lots of different places.

Anyway, in my ignorance, I decided it didn't matter and as a lesbian I wasn't gonna just get pg any way!! So i stopped taking the pill and moved away from my docs area. Lost a staggering amount of weight when i stopped the pill, but my periods disappeared, I thought it wasn't important.

Strangely, I met a man and had a relationship(first one with a man). I explained about missing cycles and it didn't matter bout kids so. But then I started to get horrific pains, i hadn't had a period for 2yrs! so it was kinda odd, went to docs they did all tests again and once again i was told to take the pills, but i didnt want to gain all that weight again it happens so fast!!

A few months later, I noticed a small lump in my stomach area so went again to Docs. Doc did blood work again told me I may have a large cyst, this was in may. I waited for a gyn app, In july went back to docs, feeling really bad at this point thyroid wasn't working properly, tired all the time. And the lump in my stomache was nearly double the size!!
Doc had afeel of my stomach and told me he thought i was pg (how did that happen?) i was convinced he was wrong. He was right, the thing was he had missed it for ages because i was already 22 weeks pg!!!! The relationship with the man broke down but i wasn't really bothered i think it had always been almost an experiment.

Now nearly three years later my wife and I have been ttc for eight months....with only one MC to show.....my doctor has changed and he is clearly concerned and has done more for me in the last couple of months than anyone else ever!!

But things aren't working as they should and I just don't know enough about anything because i always ignored it before (god i am stupid)! So had scans and now waiting for gyn app again.

Doc asked me how i felt about surgery then said he wanted a second opinion because I wanted to have a baby. I am not currently taking anything, as i need to have a full work up! but now i am confused and miserable, I can talk to my wife but i can see the sadness in her eyes and it kills me.

Does anyone know about the surgery and what it would include?
I try to wade through info on net but it's all over my head.

God sorry think that was a bit heavy?! lol