i understand you being embarrassed to tell your girlfriend -- the first time my girlfriend touched my neck and asked, do you shave here? i was so embarrassed and horrified that i felt like i was going to throw up. its so sad we carry this amount of shame with us - when it is a medical condition and nothing to be embarrassed about! anyway.. my girlfriend is so understanding. we've been together almost 6 yrs. she is the one who wanted me to get checked for PCOS after reading a college newspaper article about it. she came to me and said, 'i think you have this! i love you and i want to make sure you are healthy'. i was really embarrassed, but i was finally able to talk to her about it. so im finally getting treatment for it - after years of shame about not getting my period, rapid weight loss/gain, hair issues, etc. it is a huge relief to tell your partner -- i know you would feel better talking to her about it. however, that was very insensitive of her to say that to you!! why does she want you to be rude to people, anyway? is she comfortable treating people badly? i take rudeness to be a character flaw.. not something i would look for in a partner.... =) she may not be sensitive to your health issues if she is self-proclaimed 'rude' and is quick to hurt feelings. i am confident you will find a woman who loves you for all that you are, including superficial flaws. best wishes. |