the best thing i can suggest is for him to read this site. just let him know that some of the threads here can lean more towards man bashing then actual helping and he just needs to over look them. i have been absent from this site for a while bc i just plain got sick of it. i am a very laid back kind of guy and i know it drives my dw crazy. if he does join this site have him read some of the older posts, if you go back two months i had a post called "romance and intimacy tips from an idiot savant" that seems to have helps some people and i need to respond to some posts there so it should be popping back up on the page. if nothing else ask him what he wants to know, we're guys and as un macho (and maybe sexist even though i don't mean it to be) as it sounds this is something that we know is wrong and is hurting you and we don't know how to fix. this scares most guys, that and i've gone to the ob w/ my dw, and some of the stuff in that office looks like it came out of one of my sci-fi movies
best of luck
jt