sorry i have been away for a while, had some issues with another thread here that will not be let to die.
Alaska, your situation is almost exactly mine. i can relate to your so and i am about his age, i'm 26, with me at least its not that i don't want to most of the time i'm trying to initiate but it doesn't come across that way, i'm not the best at it and i'm not comfortable with just basically saying "hey, you wanna?" and when i am being clear it isn't always when my dw is in the mood and i know it upsets her bc she feels she is depriving me, and i have tried to assure her that is not the case. often i will not try to initiate anything bc i don't want to hurt her. have him check out some of the sites on this post and just remember that sometimes we don't initiate not because we don't care but because we do care. just some thoughts from my point of view, not saying i'm right just i can relate to him and after allot of thought this is what i came up with for me.
gstump, glad i could help and it seems allot of women are getting use from this post. to be honest i'm surprised, i guess i fell into the belief that women had a better idea then us guys. i just hope someone's got more of a clue then me bc most of the time i am doing it by accident. if you or anyone else has other suggestions or tips please share, i'm always open to new ideas.
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