Hey Paula Mc,
I haven't been on for a while so just saw your thread. you posted a while back so i hope you're still around. I wanted to respond cos i really felt for you. I'm from UK so don't know much about alabama but I do know a great website you should go on -
www.gingerbeer.co.uk - it's based in UK but there are americans on theretoo. they have a message board. there are always tons of people on there and they are always willing to chat so i guarantee you'll get people who respond and some may even have ideas about wher to go / what to do. try it ! - the 'lez chat' section
best wishes x