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mereseeley · 01-21-2008, 11:59 PM

carriebabbie- Thank you! I will have him in my arms a week from today!!!! I am adopting him alone. How are you feeling?

My BF and I have been together off and on again over the past 2 1/2 years. We are both military and he is due to transfer April 09. This summer he will have to decide where he is going. As for me, I will be completly out of the military in March 08 and want to stay where I am at. I also will be starting a new career and leaving w/in the 1st year may be a problem. So I would not be leaving with him. (long distant relationships are tough.)

We are currently on the 3rd and final try to make it work. The reasons we broke up were related to his kids (14 yr old twin boys, living in TX, w/ his ex), him not wanting to do the baby thing again, not wanting to get married again (both of us), and other career related issues.

Now we have come to agreements on most of the issues and really do want it to work. (even when we were not together, we stayed best friends.) But the only thing we can't fix/control is the fact that he could have to leave next winter. So as we progress and make our relationship stronger, we will decide whether to do the baby thing. Although if we decide that he is not going to take part, I will be searching for a sperm donor.

Also if BFP happens between now and then. We will make the best of a long distance relationship. After so many years of it not happening for me, he understands, how much it would mean for me to have it happen. So it is more wait and see than anything.

Sorry if that is a little confusing, when I try explaining it to my mom, she just signs and gives up. She's still hoping that I will marry a doctor or lawyer!