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ColoradoTRS · 02-20-2008, 11:57 PM

Now, I did not not let him have it at all, but we could have sex 2 times a week and then the next week not have it at all, then the next say 3 times a week and then maybe go for a couple weeks. My DH wanted it EVERY night in the first 5 years of our marriage. So its not like we would only do it 1 to 2 times a month. Guess I should have been more clear on that!! Also I think it has been harder for my DH as he walked into a pre-made family and there has not been alot of time for just him and me. He did ask me the other day when was it his turn......... Now I understand more of what he meant by that.

I have taken what you have said and really thought about it. I have thought about how I viewed my previous sexual relationships and realize that I just did not get a thing out of any of those, I felt no love and usually ended up with the guy getting his jollys and leaving me hanging... So I guess I never thought about a man wanting to please and take care of his partner he loves as being part of his self esteem. I do not understand it, but I can actually see it in my DH, he is always concerned if I do not O and he already has and then mopes about it for days. Big eye opener. But there is more to that on the womans side. PCOS has made me hairy. I have to freaken shave every night otherwise I have a stubble everywhere..... That makes me feel way less feminine and makes me want to hide. So just to say that only his self esteem is hurt there is actually another side and another person involved that has feelings and self esteem problems too.

From a generalized woman perspective, sex is just not as important to show how much we love our man. But upon saying that I can see how messed up that really is.

I have some work to do and I appreciate your comments, it has really made me think.