ratpackntiger

I am sorry to hear that Karma has finally bitten back.

I am a man that has been married 5 years. My wife's drive was great when we were dating and she was what I was looking for in a woman to live my life with. So I bought her the ring and did the whole romantic proposal to her. I even had enough old fashioned personality that I even asked her Dad if I could have her hand in marriage.

Then 6 months before the wedding she shut me off. Her first excuse was that she wanted the wedding night to be special. I bought that, though I was not happy about it. We got married and had a passionate night on our wedding night...just like all the tales I have heard through the years.

After that, we got a house to rent and I got a good job as HR manager of a company in the town we live in. We rented that house for 6 months and never would my wife put out. I blamed the house, I blamed myself, I blamed the stars...nothing helped.

Next spring we found a house to buy and we got a fur baby as she and I both wanted one to love. We both figured it would be our first baby to take care of and love and grow older with.

So as a married couple in our early 30's we had it all. We had the house, we were both in newer vehicles, we had a fur baby and we were active in the community. Our love life sucked bad, but I figured it was something to do with stress, etc in our new life.

Pan forward to our 5 year anniversary. We go on a vacation/honeymoon that we both wanted to go to. Everything was going OK. I was/am having a skin problem that made me feel like I am a leper. She goes out to give her friends that we met down there a few gifts we bought them and say goodbye. I was not invited as I was not their type of person that they wanted to have anything to do with. I waited for her to get back to the motel we were in and since she was on the fertility meds...figured it would be the night for some us time in the bed. Well, it lasted all of about 5 minutes. She was not in the mood for making love. I essentially had to rape her as we both want to have a baby but unless there is some strange way to get a woman pregnant that we do not know about...I had to do what nature says we have to do.

Valentine's Day killed the romance I have felt for my wife. I asked her what she wanted to do for the day of romance and love and she had replied that it was just another day and she did not care. It broke my heart in more pieces than I knew it could break into. I did do a romantic dinner for us and had mood music and nice scents in the bed room and the rest of the romantic mood setters. It turned out to be like any other night in the year. We got done with dinner and she went to watch TV and play on the computer. I lost all respect for romancing her that night. I came to the conclusion that we needed help in the bedroom or else I needed to get out of the relationship.

Now up to current times. I have gone to the doctor we both see up here and started asking questions about what is a normal sex life for a married couple. I have read a lot, but figured maybe the news was skewed a little bit. A doctor would know. Well, the doctor told me what was normal and that they want to see my wife. I have asked her if she wants me to set up the appointment for her and her response was basically put as I am forcing her to see a doctor for something that she has no will to change.

So at this moment I have no remorse for any Cyster that has a husband that has turned to a cold fish on them. To me it means that it is Karma finally coming back to equal things out in the cosmo.

People have said on this board that PCOS is just a syndrome and not a curse. Well for us men it is a curse. We curse ourselves because we feel that we are not good enough for you women. We curse ourselves because we cannot make you happy. We curse the syndrome as it robs some of us of our most primal feelings of happiness and manliness to reproduce. Most of all some of us curse the women that have it as they will not help themselves and if we try to make the dreams as a couple come true we are accused of RAPE.

I curse all you Cysters to feel for even 1 month the feelings that some of us guys have trying to keep a romance open when we are dealing with either nothing but a hand to keep us company in bed or the feeling we are criminals for having the thoughts of making love to our partners.

I am sorry for the rant. I needed to get this off my chest and having a Cyster actually want to make love to their husband makes me even madder at the world I live in.