Dear Ratpackintiger
I am in total awe as I read through your post. Never before has a man's perspective been so bluntly portrayed to me to the point that I almost cried. I hate that your relationship with your wife has been missing (what I consider to be) the most crucial part of any marriage. I have had the low sex drive even to the extent of your wife's condition before. She doesn't want to help it because she doesn't see anything wrong with it. My first husband and I had a very similar situation to yours. He wanted to do what I hated to do, make love. When I would reject him, he would get angry, hostile, and sometimes even bitter. This made things worse! Why would I want to give into anything that causes such arguments and fights between us? I never (even to this day) have experience an orgasm during sex. It was never pleasurable to me. I went to the doctor and was told that I was normal and that the BIG O would come during the right time. I am in my second marriage now and we do have sex on a semi-regular basis (at least 3 or four times a month). I still do not get any orgasmic pleasure during sex but I have learned to focus more of my energy into making him feel good. I still somewhat enjoy sex just because it brings us to a more intimate standing. The main thing that keeps our sexlife afloat is that he does not ask for sex alot. It just happens when it happens. He doesn't get mad when it doesn't happen. We are a rather young couple TTC # 1 and TTC has actually made our sex life stronger. My point to this story is that I understand both your side of the situation and your wife's. PCOS is a horrible thing for both the men and women involved especially when it affects fertility and/or your sex life. I will definitely keep yourself and your wife in my prayers. I know that you have tried everything and you sound like an awesomely devoted husband who loves his wife very much. Not many husbands would even attempt the things that you have tried. Too many of them would just find someone else to fulfill their sexual desire. I praise you that you haven't taken that route. I feel so horrible that I don't have any advice to give you (you've already tried the things that I would suggest) but find comfort knowing that you are in my thoughts and prayers.
__________________ Scott (27) & Jessica (25) Praying patiently for God to bless us. Meds: 4x Flintstones Met XR 1500mg Ovarian Drilling on 6/19
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