Neechogan

Hi everyone,

I've just finished browsing through this forum and I'm pleased to see that the number of men coming here to vent their frustration and to talk about their pain has increased. I hope that by publicly speaking about something so personal and deeply painful, I have inspired these other men to do the same. Keep it up guys! Sometimes just talking about it helps dull the pain a little bit.

Has any of you guys out there had any restrictions placed on sex? I have. Love making has been restricted to the weekends only and only if we're not going out anywhere. Her reason: she doesn't want to stink! This has been added to the "no touching, just lay there, I'm not touching that with a ten foot pole" rules that have already been in place for the last several years.

I guess its her way of just trying to avoid something that she just doesn't have the desire for. I try to understand and God knows I've been patient but sometimes I just feel like throwing my hands up and surrendering to the fact that the woman my wife used to be before PCOS is dead and is never, ever going to come back.

I'm to the point now where I just don't want to make love with her anymore. What's frustrating is that I know that cutting her off won't make her want to jump my bones. She herself has admitted that she could probably go a year or more without it and it doesn't do anything for my needs. Masturbating just isn't doing it for me because you don't have the connection that you feel when you're with a partner.

I love my wife. I'm married to a wonderful woman but I can't help but feel lonely, unloved and unwanted. Sometimes I think all that I am to her is a regular paycheque.

I really don't know what to do anymore. I'm starting to think that its maybe time to ask for a divorce and move on with my life.