 Ok I'm done stalking
Nee -
You made me finally come out of hiding.
Alright. Your wife is pushing you away. Yup. That she is indeed. She is not interested in sex, probably doesn't want you touching her, you probably never "say" the right things, or do the right things. You don't anticipate her needs, blahblahblah.
Want to know a secret? She probably is doing this on PURPOSE. Why? Self sabotage. A lot of times women find it (subconsciously) easier to push you away when they're hurting instead of drawing you close where you are needed.
I know you can't understand this, but this curse/diease/syndrome/blessing in disguise puts you into this glass box - you are stuck inside, fat, miserable, hairy, bearded, childless freak, in a glass box, screaming out for help, longing for someone to break that glass and get you out - but most of the people outside are pointing and laughing.
your wife's self esteem is gone - she is done pounding on the glass. Instead of standing up pounding and screaming for someone outside of this box to help her, she's lying on the bottom, waiting for God to take her out. So be that man. It will take a hell'uv'a lot of work on your part. More work than you think is "fair" or "necessary". but I guarantee you, if you can break through and help her - even if your marriage dissolves, and you save her life, it will be worth it.
I suggest watching "What Dreams May Come" (Robin Williams, Cuba Gooding Jr.). Seriously. No, this is not a movie about PCOS - but it is a movie that, if you "get" it, well, it's just amazing. It really has helped me to try to explain to my husband how i feel.
Let me know your thoughts.
Nik
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