AriansHubby

Hellp Soulcysters...brothers,
I want you all to know that I am not new to this community. I have been reading occasionally along with my wife to see what some of you ladies have had to say about this condition. Since all of you don't know me, I am ArianC's husband. And I must say it is nice to see a thread specific to us men who are really having to deal with this.

I will also have to admit that I have not been the best husband when it comes to infertility. Arian has been a pioneer since our first year of marriage to give me a son or daughter. I have been the one that would say "It's okay baby we'll try next month" or "It's just not our time, it'll be okay". Thats not being a good husband to a woman who yearns for a child and possesses the maternal gift a lot of women would kill for. If you guys only knew her outside of this forum like I do and see how she interacts with other couple's children, it would be clear how good of a mother she would actually be.
I have personally been recently bit hard by the baby bug, I go to bed at night thinking of how I am going to show my son how to beat Call of Duty on Expert level. How I am going to relay my tech savvy intellect to his sponge of a mind and even talk about the dreaded S word. I want all of that. More so than I have ever considered it in my life. Why it took me so long to understand that this is what I really want, I will never know. But know this, Arian has suffered and is still suffering. I know her body is not my fault, but like I said I haven't been very supportive until recently. I just want to thank all the ladies on this thread for giving her the support she needs and I want to be a part of this community with her instead of her going alone in a lot of this. So, thanks ladies and gentleman. Nice to have met you.

AriansH