Sorry to intrude on this part of the site, but I want you to think of your life 25 years later. As an example, I know someone whose husband has barely worked, has repeatedly cheated and told her so they can be 'honest', never helped with the two toddlers they had, never picked up after himself, never supported his wife in any state (even in front of his daughter-in-law) and this woman is now 53 years old and has worked 12 hour shifts to support her family for most of her life. She is drained and exhausted and completely depressed. I am waiting for one day to get the phone call that she is DX with cancer or some other horrible disease. She feels miserable and feels like she didn't have a life. She had no love/support during tough times in her life. She now takes care of two of her son's toddlers because her husband doesn't back her up and her daughter-in-law is verbally abusive. Once you bow down, people put more weight on you so you go down further into the ground.
She doesn't believe in divorce, but if it were up to myself, I would have had the courage to leave the guy once he cheated, just for the sole purpose of not having to put children through a broken relationship.
You deserve better. If you settle for this, you carve out your own reality. As part of a relationship, you negotiate indirectly how you are to be treated. Believe me, he will never change. It only gets worst. People who cheat have low self esteem/worth and do not respect the person they are with. He probably does this to feel good. Its entirely selfish. Please consider this before you make a decision. |