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Originally Posted by kok1922  Hi
I think that you need to do what is best for your long term future right now. If you think they would pull you out of college and pull financial support, then don't tell them now and get through college. Is that selfish? Yes, it is but you're parents are being incredibly selfish by refusing to love their daughter for the amazing person that she is right now and will be in the future.
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I completely agree. My partner is going through the same sort of thing right now (She's not a cyster). We won't tell her parents (although we're sure they know) because she feels it would be selfish to put this pressure on them. Also, because her family is Asian, it's a culture issue. All the Asians her family is connected with will talk and cause drama.
Basically...it's just a case-by-case basis for everyone. I came out almost 3.5 years ago to my parents. It was a struggle when they wanted to put me through therapy and forced me to attend an Exodus International convention, but I just put up with it and didn't fight them back. I think that was best for the situation. They just needed to know that they did as much as they could to "reverse" this before they forfeited. I just let them and tried not to be selfish about it.
If you KNOW they would drop your college funding, my advice is to wait! Wait until you're done with school. In the meantime, try looking for scholarships for GLBT students, especially those for students whose parents stopped funding them because of their sexuality.
Here are some links you may find useful:
http://www.washburn.edu/sobu/broach/glbt-scholar.html http://www.pointfoundation.org/ http://www.finaid.org/otheraid/gay.phtml
Check your school's resources for GLBT students. Scholarships may be available. If they aren't check with your school's GLBT student organization(s) to see what they would recommend for finding aid.
And stay positive!
