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Originally Posted by graceking  mkaz- I completely respect your right to your own opinion, however I'd just like to share my own opinion as a bisexual woman in response to that. Yes, I'm actually bisexual, and I'm okay with that. It's a legitimate status- I'm attracted to both men and women, and I don't discriminate gender-wise as to where love comes from, I just accept it, enjoy it, and thrive on it. I'm not experimenting and I'm not confused. Deep down, I've known that I'm bisexual since I was little; I was simply born this way, and there's nothing more to it than that. I suppose one way to explain it is this- to me, saying bisexuality doesn't exist is like saying that yes, people who are blind are actually blind, and people who have 20/20 vision actually have perfect vision, but the people who are in between are just faking it or seeking out attention. The people who are in-between know that their vision is what it is, but its virtually impossible for them to let other people see through their eyes and know it as well, so the other people just have to trust the descriptions of those who are in-between and go with it. I hope that makes sense. Again, I mean no offense or disrespect towards your opinion, I just wanted to share my thoughts.  |
I would like to tell you how much I appreciate your intelligent, thought-out reply to this. I suppose in reality, I am more skeptical about people pronouncing themselves bisexual, than actually not believing it exists. I still stand in saying most people are either experimenting or confused, however. Perhaps not you.
What "bugs" me most though, are comments like: I'm married, but bi and sleep with women, and my husband is okay with it. Or just because some female has made-out with another female -- but pretty much is always with a guy -- she thinks she is bisexual. To me, the first is just sleazy, and the second is just b.s.
I have my own interesting background in that I was married for 7 years, and only with men, until I divorced a few years back. Without ever even considering a lesbian relationship (or another relationship), I found my now forever partner who is a woman. Where does that put me on the "scale" of things? I fell in love with the person she is, not her sex.
Am I a lesbian, bisexual, does it really matter?
Labeling can be a huge downfall. But now I think I'm taking the conversation elsewhere, so I will stop. Thank you for your thoughtful thoughts!
