 sometimes people surprise you
Sophia,
I'm 27 and thin with PCOS - my main symptoms are irregular periods and hirsutism.
I dealt with the hirsutism with laser hair removal, and I dealt with the periods by not caring too much. But I always felt like I was lying to all the guys I met.
In college I dated mostly women and I never had to worry about not being fertile - whatever! It would be hard to have kids anyway! But anytime I liked or dated a guy, I worried about it.
I am a pretty religious Jew, and the main point of getting married to someone of the opposite gender, in Judaism, is to have babies. I am dating a religious guy now and we are quite serious about one another. So I was terrified to tell him about the PCOS. Luckily he is a med student, and also a leukemia survivor, so he was pretty not scared by the mere fact that I have a problem. But what shocked me most was that he was just, like, a little bit sad - but I don't think it even occurred to him to leave me. I was so surprised, because he is so into what he wants - like, a family, and so forth. But what I discovered was that just like with women, men are people too. And sometimes what they want is actually you.
I think it is scary to tell someone about PCOS, but I think it's also important because you will feel so much better - you won't feel so alone. And it feels good to realize that sometimes people just care about one another.
best wishes,
Leah Chana |