Hi Bree & Izzy!
Yes, I agree that it's great to finally get dx'd. Honestly, I had my suspicions years ago, but my obgyn was clueless. She kept saying "you're young, you'll get pregnant" and finally gave me clomid after I proved to her that I wasn't ovulating (I asked for lab work). She still insisted I was fine and then I had a m/c, followed by a chemical pg a few months later. She said the hair loss was just hormonal (but not linked to PCOS? hmm lol), that my weight gain was no big deal, and that everything would work itself out. I am so glad to have a new doctor who seems to know what she's talking about... she said I had PCOS on the very first time I saw her... even before an u/s confirmed it. So I am hopeful.
We have done approx. 12 insemination cycles since we began in 2006... I could be off on the numbers, though as the months seem to all run together after this long. I know only 5 of those were medicated (clomid). We have been using a known donor and doing ICI at home. I am just now getting back in the saddle after several months off. I have considered moving on to frozen sperm and IUI and will talk to the doctor about that possibility if we get no results after 3 months on the new meds.
I, too, have been asked why my DW is not having the baby and there are a few reasons with us. First, because she is 35 so she's older than me (not that it puts her out of the game, but it does add a small amount of challenge). Second, because she may have undiagnosed fertility problems or problems carrying a child because she had a stillborn child at around 6 months when she was 19 years old. Most importantly, because she doesn't have the need or desire to carry a baby and I do... not exactly something that can be negotiated. She has said that if I can't have one, she'll do it, but I desperately want to carry a child and give birth, so I'm doing everything I can. It might be confusing to outsiders... I dunno... but it is what it is, ya know?
I noticed that you confronted some people about a thread concerning the Oregon transman who is pregnant... I got into it a bit on another thread about the same subject... wasn't sure if you'd come across it or not
Oregon Man is PREGNANT!!!
I almost left soulcysters because I found that post within a week of joining and did not want to hang out with a bunch of people like that... but then I found this thread and had a little hope for the site LOL