thanks for your responses. kriket, thanks so much for being supportive and helpful. nikbeehubby, i hope you can understand why i wanted to post in this board and i agree with you that being honest and true to yourself is the way to go.
it's just tough, there are all of these added "insecurities" when you have pcos and sometimes it can be really discouraging and emotionally exhausting on top of the normal search for love (lol, especially when you're out of the dating world for a few years) so i just wanted some feedback. for instance, i just met a guy recently and i was so uncomfortable in my own skin (he was very lean and barely had any "meat" on his bones, just muscle and skin and his waist was a lot smaller than mine so i felt awkward) and he picked up on my discomfort. but he thought it was because i didn't like being out with him. i mentioned that i had a medical condition and had put on some weight because of it, which has made me uncomfortable with my body. anyway, my point with that anecdote is that his "filling in the blanks" like that is the reason i think it's important to talk about the fact that i do have pcos. if something is making someone uncomfortable being themselves, it shows and other people aren't mind readers so, frequently, they can come up with their own explanations of why and it often has to do with something they're insecure about themselves. so, i think communication is important because things like that can become a barrier. being on this end of the gender polarity, i just think it might be sort of hard for a guy to hear some of the major things about pcos and imagining being with her. i could definitely be wrong, so i just wanted to hear some viewpoints.
any other thoughts?? if you guys were meeting a woman and starting to get to know her, how would you want to hear about pcos?? |