 how many of you men were with your woman before she was diagnosed?
My DF was with me before my dx, and has been nothing but supportive the whole time. The irst time he saw me naked, I was a size three and now i'm floating in between a 15 and a 17. One time the subject came up, i asked if he even REMEMBERS how I used to look and he said "what do you mean?" And I said "Do you MISS me weighing 100 lbs and not being all hairy? Do you miss me not having to pop a pill ever ten minutes? Do you miss me not being hairrier than you? Not being in pain all the time? Not having stretch marks, not having teensy boobs, not going to doctors all the time?" and he tells me this:
"Come on baby, I wish you would stop worrying about your weight. You HAVENT gotten fat."
....I was like "What size, exactly, do you think I wear?" And he says "definately not more than a 5 or 6."
"And you need the meds, it's no big deal to me that you take them. I want you to take them because you need them.
"You aren't hairy at all baby... I have never seen a hair on you that I didnt love.
"I know you worry that you arent any fun anymore because of the pain, but you are still the rambunctious person I fell in love with.. I just don't want you to hurt anymore. Don't even worry about that pain.
"..........What stretch marks?
"Baby, Those boobies aren't any smaller than they used to be... they're beautiful just like you.
"Those doctors? I dont even worry about the dr. visits because those doctors are going to make you well enough to carry my babies.
"I don't want you to ever worry about your appearance again.. I love you just as you were when we fell in love, just as you are, and just as you will be.. because there's no difference."
I love that boy.
My question for you men (or you women ABOUT your men) is this: Do you guys say stuff like this just to make us feel better, or is my mom right in saying that the first impression sticks and you guys don't see us any differently now that we've been diagnosed than we were back in the days that our symptoms were "waiting"?? I hope that makes some sense to you.
__________________ Me: 18 DF:18
Not trying, but still hoping!!
DXed: September 10, 2007
PCOS with insulin resistance, Pelvic Congestion Syndrome, IBS, Asthmatic, Chronic Sinusitis, Depression, Anxiety
Meds:L-Lysine, Nexium, Metformin, spiro, Melatonin, Saw Palmetto, YAZ (YAY! I can't wait to get my boobs back!! lol)
LADIES: Does it ever feel to you like if you took ALL of the pills that you have to take in ONE day AT ONE TIME, you would be SO FULL, that you could skip a whole meal and not feel hungry?
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