The Man of the Board

Ok first thing first i was in the military so when I talk some times it about military doc's Ill try and let you know where i am comeing from.

Alittle more then 2 years ago now my wife and I were trying to have children. When we found out we could not my wife started going to the military doctor's to see if there was a problem with her or myself. The frist thing they found was a tumor about 10mm affecting her cycle. So they thought that was blocking us from haveing kids ( it still may be that I got lost when my world was turned upside down). The one military doc said well I think you have PCOS but I am not trained in my field so I need to see you to someone else. At this time we were stationed in Germany so she was sent to an off base Doc for a CAT scan which at this time he agreed that she had an tumor and it was not growing so they did not need to do anything about it at the time. He sent her to another baby doctor at this time. This is the first 3 minths and things in our house was starting to change, and not for the better. She went to see this new Doctor did tests and said well it may be PCOS but i am not trained in that area you will have to see another doctor. Now this is about 5 months down the line. our whole world we changed for then on. Still no meds and no real treatment but then again we did not know if she did or did not have this. Now a year gone by things in the house are really tough but i will go into that later. About this time I released from the military. We headed back to the States. Within the first month that we got back she was put on a treatment plain and we are dealing better with everything.



0-1 year not knowing what is going on.
During this time period we both were Serverly depressed. I thought it was all me and she did not want anything to do with me. I wanted to end it not my marrage i wanted to end me and my pain I was in. I know for myself it was hard to know my wife was in pain and depressed and there was nothing that i could do about it. So you all you fellas out there learn this QUICK it is not always about you. IF you love you wife/GF then you will help her deal and hopefully you will learn what is going on way before we did. Learn what ever you have about PCOS and what it is going to mean for you.

1-2 years not knowing. Man during this time peroid it got so bad there was a time we did not talk for 2 weeks. We merely co-existed with each other. it did not help that we were over seas with out support of her friends and family we could go to for help it was bad. During this time I thought everything thought she was cheating/did not want me/wanted out. You see it not merly the sex drive that is affected it everyway your woman is going to forsee herself and how she treats you. How I mean those little glance to know your being thought about or the little touch on your rump and kissing or even talking.

3 months since she been on meds well our battle is not over by a long shot not like you wake up and its gone for good. But we have each other. So listen you guys out there Ill be on this board until its shut down. I never in a millon years thought i would be at a site like this pooring out my thoughts as i am BUT if you dont its not good for you or your wife or the kids. Never be to proud to ask for help god know i was and it almost killed me.