Tony, when I first found out that I had it, I was fighting alot with my boyfriend, who was just as much of a control freak as I was at the time. The hormones interefered with everything from relating to dealing with the PCOS news and what was required of me, it's stressful. Then a woman has to deal with you leaving and we wonder that in the back of our mind if you will which causes stress. We can feel very alone with this disorder and then when we have a man, that factors into our emotions too. I was a mess when first diagnosed and it could have been so much easier if I had my bf's total committment to me as a person. The fact that you are on here is amazing. Men usually don't care about the things women go thru and we really want men in our lives, we need you guys.
If she gets irritable and cranky ask her what you can do for her and see if that helps. Usually we need something we aren't getting that creates more inner turmoil and not many men ask "What do you need from me right now?" with the open mind and willingness to provide it.
Just know we are not using hormones to control you. They control us and having your understanding is what makes us secure until we are balanced with medicines. That's when you can relax again and exhale.
I know a few marriages that men have to women with PCOS and they are great marriages. |